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The true

PostPosted: Fri Jun 10, 2011 3:21 pm
by flower
Is it the true or only a dream ?

feeling puzzled...

I believe people can change
and that they deserve always a second chance for what they did.

Being assertive is also being who you really are .
Being sweet can also being assertive...
If that s who you really are and what you really feel.

You reach sometimes more being sweet because when you are REALLY SWEET ...
and it is no lie...
The other person can feel it and will be uplifted...

But it only works when you really believe....TRUST...

If you don't understand me, never minds
Maybe naïve
or maybe just want to protect myself

I could be wrong but I think you are the best when you ar just yourself, I have the experience people sometimes changes....


Re: The true

PostPosted: Fri Jun 10, 2011 4:32 pm
by idealist
Flower I understand what you mean, and I agree with you, however life is about balance. Sometimes adopting certain roles/sides of character can help in different circumstances. We all get mad, upset, angry and frustrated and sometimes that needs to be expressed and smiling when you do not feel like it may not help the situation, because people may think you are not hurt and they carry on treating you badly. Also there are just some people that want to wipe that smile and happiness off your face. Some people many want/choose to stay miserable and feel worthless, because that is the belief they have about themselves, and it’s what they know therefore it brings them some weird sort of comfort.

I agree that you should be yourself even if that means being sweet when someone is doing the opposite. I think maybe communicating feelings and remaining slightly detached from the situation, although still being fully connected to the over life’s messages, may help us all in conquering our problems. Thanks for this post you have helped me gain clarity in my own life. Acting out of love/understanding and not fear is the road I would like to follow :D

What prompted you to write this?

Re: The true

PostPosted: Fri Jun 10, 2011 5:11 pm
by flower
Hope you are well and succeeded your exams, but I didn't doubt about that.
Hope things are going fine with your partner and the place where you live.
We missed you on the meeting. I was really curious about who you are.

About my note,

It's a kind of complicated, I promise you I will explain later.


Re: The true

PostPosted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 3:23 am
by flower

The tekst above is something between me and my best friend

What I will say is that i am sad that I am not assertiv enough and
sometimes laugh instead of saying what i really mean because of i am scared
I think assertivity means saying your feelings and come up for yourself without hurting the feelings
of someone.

But I did yesterday to someone special and it was healing all my wounds.

The important thing is really having some good soulmates
A soulmate is maybe someone who understand you when you laugh
and someone who understand you when you cry
Maybe because they accept you just the way you are
They give you wings and make you feel really happy

Maybe it was a little emotional week
again for me
but was not intended to write it on the forum
Kitty, you always can read between the lines, things sorted out,
you will know what I mean.